Dear Sharon Gaffka: How do I tell someone I’m not romantically interested without disclosing my sexuality?

Sharon Gaffka
Sharon Gaffka has shared her knowledge in our agony aunts sequence (Image: Getty)

Sharon Gaffka hit our screens in fashion on the seventh sequence of Love Island final 12 months, and has since given us all of the tea on what it’s actually like within the villa.

Shortly after her time within the villa, she got here out as bisexual, revealing she opened as much as fellow contestant Faye Winter about her sexuality in unaired scenes.

Since, she’s additionally used her platform to marketing campaign about vital causes, together with elevating consciousness of drink spiking after she was spiked herself.

At present, Sharon has been unveiled ’s LGBTQ+ agony aunt.

She’s available to supply recommendation to 1 reader on the way to inform somebody they’re not romantically with out disclosing their sexuality.

Sharon Gaffka
Sharon hit our screens on Love Island final 12 months (Image: ITV)

Pricey nameless,

Firstly, congratulations on popping out! Discovering who you're is certainly one of life’s most complicated experiences, regardless of your age! Accepting that you just aren’t heterosexual is large, so popping out, even to your folks isn’t simple. I'm pleased with you!

I believe you will need to reinforce, to anybody else studying this, that you just do issues on YOUR phrases! Extra importantly, if you end up prepared, you don't owe anybody a proof. Ever!

I believe honesty is one of the best coverage on this state of affairs, which you are able to do with out disclosing your sexuality. I’m uncertain of your relationship, however my recommendation could be to inform them that you just don’t see them romantically or that you just solely see them as a good friend and wouldn’t wish to jeopardise that. In my hetero-romantic relationships, I've wasted time on those that I'm not inquisitive about, as a result of I concern hurting their emotions, the older I’ve grow to be the extra I’ve realised 1) by doing so, I'm prolonging the rejection and a pair of) I'm spending time on one thing that doesn’t serve me. They might initially be shocked by the rejection, particularly if that they had an inkling that you could have fancied them beforehand, however they may recover from it!

We have to cease fearing taking cost of our personal romantic lives, that is now your time to completely uncover your self and simply as importantly your time to have enjoyable! Unapologetically as you!

Good luck and plenty of love! xx


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